I’ve been on this blogging journey for just over a year now – admittedly only truly focusing on it in the past 6 months, but the whole thing has been a huge learning curve and I think the main reason I’ve struggled at times is because its not like when you are employed in a ‘normal’ job – you don’t have anybody telling you if you are doing a good enough job?!
With my copywriting and freelance writing work, I get regular feedback from Clients so I know I do a good job for them, but with blogging it takes time to build your audience, find your style and apart from lovely people leaving you comments on your blog and your social media, you don’t get specific feedback on what you’re doing well and not so well with …. and I’ve found that can lead to a huge amount of self-doubt!
But something I then started to struggle with a few months ago was also my appearance and whether I was your typical ‘Blogger type’.
I used to feel I had a style that was distinctive enough to be my own, but not too ‘out there’…. generally on trend, but still a bit edgy at the same time and I felt pretty confident in my image….. and then I started blogging.
I started questioning whether I was chic enough, on trend enough, thin or pretty enough and I had a real wobble in confidence. I’m fine, I’m past it now and I’m back to feeling how I used to, but it’s been an interesting process of starting to compare myself to others both in appearance and the kind of blogs I write.
At the end of the day, how you look is just one part of who you are and there are far more important things to worry about in life – I realise that, but at the same time it’s amazing how feelings about your appearance can affect your confidence… and that can then leak out into other areas of your life so quickly if you let it.
I was really questioning whether I was good enough in pretty much every way imaginable.
It was an alien feeling to me and one that I found very uncomfortable for a while. It’s something I’ve spoken to a fellow Blogger friend about quite a lot over the past six months and she had experienced similar worries of her own, which I suppose made me feel a little less insecure …. so that support and then a specific thing, or rather a process if you like, has pulled me out of it and I’m feeling good about myself again!
Basically, sorting my wardrobe out, sorted my head out!! Sounds a bizarre link I know, but trust me….
So my wardrobe was a total mess, I only wore about a third of it and I couldn’t see a lot of what I had as everything was crushed together in a vaguely organised fashion. My wardrobe was getting fuller and fuller, yet I always felt I didn’t have much to wear.
It majorly needed sorting out so I started researching – looking at capsule wardrobes and minimalism (definitely not for me!), thinking about different styles and how I would ideally like to dress and staring at my wardrobe, pondering on better ways to organise it.
As I was armpit deep in unworn and unloved clothes, I gave myself a bit of a talking to – plenty of people are reading my blog, my DA is good and brands are paying to work with me so there wasn’t really any evidence to suggest I wasn’t doing well enough…. and as for my style, well I had a ton of beautiful clothes so what was I worrying about?! Blogging seems to go through phases of obsessions with specific styles like marble, rose gold and slogan t-shirts and quite honestly I think it’s put me off those things for life! (no offence if you love those, but I’ve just got a bit sick of them!)
I am a unique person with my own personality and my own style so why should I be worrying about looking like a load of other people? People tell me they like my style and if that’s the case they will probably like my blog and if they don’t, well that’s fine isn’t it because there are plenty of other bloggers for them to follow and appreciate?
I had just let my doubts and a bit of negativity overcome me for a while!
So I sorted my wardrobe out, and in the process I sorted my head out too…. and doing this big clear out has reiterated to me that I know who I am, I know what makes me feel and look good, I know what kind of person – and blogger – I am …. and screw comparing myself to everybody else!
I’m not speaking about this for sympathy, reassurance or anything like that – just to explain how I came about creating my style guide!
Along the way I came up with a simple way of defining my style and organising my wardrobe once and for all …. and it really worked!
Because I found the process so helpful, I wrote my style download that is:
‘5 Simple Steps to Develop Your Personal Style… And Organise Your Wardrobe in the Process’
Its yours to download for free – I had it produced by a Designer and I’m pleased with the way it has all come together so I really hope you like it!
Get yours here:
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