Some people fear it, others love it – I’d say I’m pretty ok with spending time alone.
I’ve recently flown back to my little Spanish island that’s become more and more like home than I ever expected and this time I’m going to be spending a significant amount of time alone here… which got me thinking about being on your own – how some people find it quite uncomfortable and others actually crave it…. and how for me, the majority of time, it eventually brings about a feeling of real peace within me.
I don’t know whether it’s because I don’t have any brothers or sisters but I’ve always enjoyed my own company…
… and I suppose in a way its partly selfish in that, although I love spending time with friends and family, I also really enjoy my space and being able to do whatever I want, when I want to without having to take somebody else’s needs into consideration and I’m pretty content with just my own thoughts for company.
I’ve always been a daydreamer and I constantly have ideas and creative stuff going round and around my brain – which kind of keeps me company in a strange way.
I’m also a big one for making lists and planning, so have loads of notebooks for different things but also, when I spend time on my own I find deeper things I’m thinking and feeling subconsciously come out and I’ll discover thoughts and emotions I wasn’t really aware of. So I often use time on my own to empty my head, think about where I am, where I’m headed with my life, changes I want to make as well as the usual creative stuff I want to make a start on.
However, I don’t think it’s just to do with being an only child or a daydreamer, I also think being comfortable on your own is something that comes with age.
I can remember when I was first living on my own years ago I felt really independent and grown-up, but also found it difficult to settle and I used to constantly go out so that I wasn’t spending much time in my flat alone.
Often now too, when I first arrive abroad I seem to constantly make myself busy and it takes me a couple of days to relax into the quiet of being by myself but – and that’s the key thing that’s changed over time – once I’ve done so, I’m very much at peace in my home, by myself, doing my ‘thing’.
So, if you need me over the next few weeks I’ll most likely be on my villa patio, barefoot and surrounded by notebooks whilst watching the clouds and planning world…. well Tiff’s world at least …. domination in list form 😉
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Ps. If anyone has any tips on how to take those lists and actually put my ‘genius’ ideas and plans into action I’d love to hear them!
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